Boarding School Trauma and Recovery.
Over the past two years I have been writing my autobiography and self-help book about my boarding school life.
But yesterday I did something rather unbelievable...
Something that I have been putting off for nearly a year and maybe a lifetime...
Something that I was really frightened of doing...
Yesterday, I reached out to a publisher about my boarding school book...
I have been writing and editing this book now for two years...
I have read through the manuscipt 10 times.
I have added 650-700 references.
To me it is not ready, but will it ever be...
But finally I reached out to a publisher to see if they might be interested in it...
And their response?
Maybe...
It depends if there is a market for it.
Can I reach the ex-boarders who might be interested in the book?
Can I inspire those that want to hear about what it was like at boarding school in the 1980s and 90s and the path to recovery - to share, buy and get behind this book?
I told them I would have to see...
I would reach out to my website visitors and see if there is an audience there.
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The book is partly my journey of trauma at boarding school age 11-17.
I talk about my early struggles with school - fitting in, the food, emotional repression, the bullying, the fagging.
I talk about my adolescent struggles of living in an institition: thinking that I was gay, self-hatred, depression, suicidal thoughts.
I talk about the greatest struggles: injuring myself and being off activities for a year, a mentor committing suicide, attempted sexual abuse, living in a woods for a term pulling me back from the edge.
I share the tools and techniques that I have used to start the recovery process from the trauma.
I share the exercises that I use every day with myself and my clients to heal from boarding school syndrome.
The truth is that I had to do everything on my own after my friend died.
This lasted until I had a breakdown living in London in my 20s and arriving in a Buddhist monastery.
And I see that I can't publish this book alone - I have to have support...
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The potential title of the book?
Boarding School Trauma & Recovery
I am looking at ways that I can get this book out there.
The question is: does this story interest you?
Has boarding school affected you?
Did you go? Or do you know someone who did who you can see really struggles?
If you would like to read this story there are a few ways that you can help:
1. Put your name onto this email list.
What I am looking for is people who are willing to be supporters of this book. I would love for those that are interested to read it, if they like it to leave a review on Amazon and then share it with others.
I can then share with the potential publishers that I have an audience of people who will buy it.
I will use this list to just update people about where the book is with its publication and when it is released:
2. Share this page or email people who you feel might be interested.
The truth is that I can't do this on my own.
I have tried (especially at boarding school) and I didn't get very far.
I feel that the boarding school system not only needs to change but those who went there (and there are many of us) need healing.
Nick Duffell, Joy Schaverien, and others' work is amazing - hopefully my voice will join them to show that we can go through trauma and come out the other side.
Thank you so much for reading this blog post.
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